In Appreciation of Chandler Bing

Chandler swallow our feelings

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We’ve arrived at the conclusion of our Friends appreciation posts, and who better to take us home than Chandler Muriel Bing?

In the original character descriptions of our six favorite New Yorkers and obviously influenced by classic British comedy, Chandler is said to be “droll,” “dry,” and “a wry observer of everyone’s life.” (“You know what’s weird? Donald Duck never wore pants. But whenever he’s getting out of the shower, he always puts a towel around his waist. I mean, what is that about?”) But those few words barely scratch the surface of where Matthew Perry took this character.

I’m struggling to put my lifelong affection for Chandler Bing into words. How can I possibly do justice to the caretaker of the WENUS? The late-bloomer who first touched a girl’s boobs when he was 19? (“Thanks, man.”) The blabbermouth who was the first to spill the beans about Ross’s love for Rachel? He was the type of half grown-up who I now know actually litters the NYC landscape. Stuck for most of the series in a dead-end, boring desk job, all the romance and fun in Chandler’s life was outside the 9- 5. He was together enough to take care of Joey, but forever unable to resist a Baywatch marathon or making their apartment into a cozy home for a couple of farm animals. (“Do you guys know how to get a chick out of a VCR?”) He rocked many an old-school bowling shirt and got overly excited a lot. (“Chandler, you’re panicking.” “Yes! Join me, won’t you?”) People sometimes assume that he’s gay because he has a “quality.” (“Good, cause I was worried you guys were going to be vague about this.”) He had a partying college friend nicknamed “Gandalf.” He was a bro to Ross and Joey, but thoroughly capable of and happy to spend many a girls’ night with his ladies.  Chandler didn’t have much of a childhood, so the family of friends that he’s created for himself means everything to him. He’s legitimately torn up in the arc where Joey gets rich and moves out of their apartment for a period. It still hurts to think on it. Hey, at least we got to meet Eddie. (“Well, see ya, pals.”)

By all accounts, Matthew Perry’s addition to pain medication stayed hidden and untreated for so long because he maintained his professionalism and work ethic on set. So, though his fluctuating weight had us fans concerned about Matthew’s health, Chandler Bing remained completely unaffected. The impact endures. SEVERAL comic characters on TV right now owe a characteristic or two or ten to Miss Chanandeler Bong. But no one will ever fully take his place. Here’s why:

1. His Sardonic Wit

Chandler Bing sarcastic comment

Like so many of us, Chandler’s immediate response to any tense situation (or any situation, really) is to crack a joke. And why not? People in general take themselves and their problems too seriously. When things got deep on Friends, Chandler was always there to help us navigate those choppy, emotional waters. Whether he was eating Monica’s organic hair wax to stay alive through Ross and Rachel’s marathon breakup (“Not the USED wax.” “Because THAT would be crazy.”) or smoothly trying to transition his relationship with Monica from casual hook-ups to decidedly less casual hook-ups (“Y’know, I don’t know if you’ve ever looked up the term goofing around in the dictionary. Well, I have, and the technical definition is, two friends who care a lot about each other and have amazing sex and just wanna spend more time together. But if you have this new fangled dictionary that gets you made at me, then we have to, y’know, get you my original dictionary.”), the Chan-Chan man set the tone for the humor of the whole show.

Chandler Bing I make jokes

Not that it didn’t get him into trouble, of course. Chandler’s mouth has been known to end relationships, botch job interviews (“And then it was really hard to sidestep that ‘duty’ thing.”), and earn him plenty of enemies in the tri-state area. But who cares? Because he’s got 5 people who understand him, and that’s all he needs. Being universally liked versus cracking your friends up daily? No contest.

Janice what a small world friendsChandler I never run into Beyonce

Chandler often got the glory of the straight-faced punchline. The other characters would set ’em up, and he’d knock ’em down. This one still makes me giggle, after roughly 20 years.

Ross: “You uh, you don’t believe in gravity?”
Phoebe: “Well, it’s not so much that you know, like I don’t believe in it, you know, it’s just… I don’t know, lately I get the feeling that I’m not so much being pulled down as I am being pushed.”
[Knock at door]
Chandler: “Uh-Oh. It’s Isaac Newton, and he’s pissed.”

I could copy and paste Chandler lines from here until forever, but that’s not why you’re here. Or maybe it is. Just know that in researching this post, I was in laughter-tears only 1/4 of the way down his IMDB quotes page.

2. Forever Alone

Chandler I love you oh crap

Shame on the women of fictional New York for not realizing what they had in Chandler Bing. Then again, it was his romantic trials and tribulations that made Chandler build up his sarcastic deflection methods, so thanks. From his early days of not scoring, (“Didn’t you read The Lord of the Rings in high school?” “I had sex in high school.”) to his adult days of not scoring (“I wanted to wear my bathrobe and eat peanut clusters all day. I wanted to start drinking in the morning. Don’t say that I don’t have goals!”), Chandler gave the less romantically successful of us someone to identify with and root for. We even shipped him and Janice for real for a bit, didn’t we?

Janice Oh My God

But Chandler’s lack of game was all in his head. He set himself up to fail because he was convinced that he wasn’t good enough to be happy. Remember: broken home. It’s a real testament to his friendship with Joey that they stayed strong despite their uneven distribution of confidence with women. It probably helped even the scales that Joey thought Count Rushmore was the guy who painted the faces on the mountain. Anyway, turns out the universe had big love plans for Chandler and they didn’t involve him turning into Crazy Snake Man. We’ll get to that soon.

Chandler Hopeless and Awkward

3. His One-Man Sponsorship of Joey Tribbiani’s Acting Career

Joey and Chandler thumbs up

Maybe Chandler really believed that Joey would hit the big-time someday. Or maybe he just supported him because he was his bestie and acting was his dream. Either way, any butt-double gigs or off-off-Broadway Freudian musicals Joey booked, he owed entirely to his roommate.

Joey Chandler Glass

He’d joke about the bill Joey’d rung up with him, but Chandler never expected his goofy friend to pay his tab. Beyond the cash for stage-fighting workshops and headshots, Chandler’s support extended to attending every awful play he ever starred in (“So I’m gonna get on this spaceship and go to Blangon 7 in search of alternative energy fuels. And when I return, 200 years from now, you’ll be long gone. But I won’t have aged at all. So you tell your great, great great grandaughter to look me up. Cause Adrian, baby, I’m gonna wanna meet her.”), attempting to physically tackle him to the ground so as to not embarrass himself in Soap Opera Digest, and being a test contestant as Joey prepped for an audition to host the hottest new game show on the planet, Bamboozled.

Chandler Bing Best game ever

It was this brand of casually selfless encouragement that made Friends so much more than a generic sitcom about 20-something white people. And for that, Chandler deserves all the Wicked Wango cards.

4. His Dancing

Chandler Joey Dancing

Let’s celebrate Chandler’s physicality in general, but ESPECIALLY his uber-white dance moves. And let this flaily abandon be an example to us all.

Chandler Mini Wave

Chandler never let his lack of skills stop him from embarking on a victory dance, and neither should you.

Chandler Bing Dancing on Table

5. His Nubbin

Chandler Bing third nipple

Chandler is so special that he is actually a mutant. In the second season, we find out that Chandler has a non-fuctional third nipple (Monica was the only one who knew about it – FORESHADOWING) when the gang was throwing out each other’s secrets. It’s overshadowed by the revelation that Joey shot a fully clothed part in a porno, but it returns in the third when Chandler has it removed. (“Two nipples, no waiting.” “Just like Rachel in high school.”) Yes, Chandler did away with his tiny nubbin, and when he missed the aforementioned easy Rachel joke, fears that with it, he nubbinectomied “the source of all” his power. Two-nippled Chandler is still hilarious, though we missed that weird little thing for the rest of the series. Let’s celebrate our differences! A little nubbin is nothing to be ashamed of.

6. “My scone, MY scone!”

Could I be wearing anymore clothes

Chandler: “They ‘do’ me?”
Phoebe: “You know like um, okay, ‘Could that report be any later?'”
Chandler: “I don’t sound like that.”
Ross: “Oh come on, Chandler.”
Joey: “Yeah, you do.”
Ross: “The hills are alive with the sound…of music!” 

This Chandler trait is all to Matt Perry’s credit and one of the most enduring legacies of the show. What English-speaking human can’t immediately identify the classic Bing cadence? He had his own special way of placing emphasis, and even invented some of his own slang.

Chandler Woopah

Admit it, you still use this one.

7. He Would Have Fallen in Love with Fat Monica Anyway

Chandler Monica you wanna do itChandler Monica reaction

Though he described skinny Monica as being “the most beautiful woman in most rooms,” “The One That Could Have Been” showed us that comic book writer Chandler and adorably rotund Monica would have still found love. As Kim wrote in her Monica appreciation post, Fat Monica was “never played as a sad sack.” Sure, IRL hottie Monica and friends make jokes about her former size. But we don’t get the feeling at all in this episode that she lets her weight make her unhappy. She and Chandler still have the same close friendship. And though he has some moves and she has no moves, its their connection and his admiration of her sweetness and humor that would always have led to their getting together. Also, he looks super cute in a backwards hat and glasses.

Chandler you shouldn't be with himChuck you should be with me

I love this show for giving us this episode and Chandler for being a sarcastic prince among men. Would that we were all so lucky to have best friends like this to fall in love with us.

Chandler Monica Little FAt Girl

8. His Dysfunctional Family

More turkey Mr. Chandler

The Gellers may be overbearing and the Tribbianis may be loud and Phoebe’s mom might be a spirit that lives in cat, but these families are all hard-pressed to defeat the Bings in the dysfunctional family Olympics. Chandler is the product of Nora Tyler-Bing (Morgan Fairchild), a romance novelist who talked about buying him his first condoms on The Tonight Show and once kissed his best friend, and Charles Bing (Kathleen Turner, so perfectly cast that I can’t stand it), fabulous cabaret performer and leader of a very popular gay Las Vegas review.

Friends Viva Las Gaygas

In Chandler’s words, “If I turn into my parents, I’ll either be an alcoholic blonde chasing after twenty-year-old boys, or I’ll end up like my mom.”

It’s not that the drag thing bothers him on some deep level, it’s that Chandler’s a man-child and still quite capable of being embarrassed to death by his parents. They’re both outwardly sexual still, which explains why he’s so buttoned-up and guarded. The lasting influence of their divorce would rear its ugly head at some inopportune times, like when a recently broken up Ross and Rachel went at each other at a rest stop. (“Look what you’re doing to Chandler!” “I was being Shelley Winters from The Poseidon Adventure.”) He still loved them both though, and a tiny, little boy part of him just wished they’d stayed together. Their heaviest legacy as parents in the Friends universe was to ruin Thanksgiving for him — their pool-boy related break-up at the dinner table being why Chandler will forever shun “all the Pilgrim holidays.” No more turkey for Mr. Chandler.

9. His Jill Goodacre Game

Chandler Bing gum would be perfection

Gun to my head, if I had to pick a DEFINITIVE Chandler Bing moment, it would be this. “The One with the Blackout” is at least a Top 10 episode, featuring Mr. Heckles and a lost cat, one of Phoebe’s finest songs, and the introduction of Paolo, huge crapweasel.

But it was Chandler’s blackout ordeal of getting stuck in an ATM vestibule with Victoria’s Secret model Jill Good-archherrr (“Put Joey on the phone!”) that makes it a true classic. Only Chandler could turn a moment this incredibly lucky into a downward spiral of embarrassment. I’ve practically memorized that voiceover and his suitably horrified facial expressions at every word that actually comes out of his mouth. And I only associate with people who respond appropriately to an offer of a stick of gum.

“Could have said, ‘gum would be nice,’ or, ‘I’ll have a stick,’ but no-no-no-no-no. For me, gum is perfection. I loathe myself.”

Loathe yourself all you want, Chandler. This is the moment I signed up to love you for all time.

Chandler Bing ATM

10. For Giving Monica the Family She Wanted

Chandler Bing parachute is a knapsack

It started innocently enough, with Chandler suggesting that if neither of them was married by 40, that he and Monica get together and “have one.” Wrong thing to say to a single lady whose mother has made her violently insecure (“Okay, HYPOTHETICALLY, why won’t I be married when I’m 40?”), but right sentiment. Chandler hinted a few times that he’d be more than happy to be Monica’s back-up, not knowing that he’d end up being the best decision she ever made.

You big tree

Once Chandler realized what they had, he fought for it. He was the one who first suggested (okay, jealously whined) that they should be exclusive, and later that they should co-habitate (“What if we lived together and you understand what I’m saying?”) He admitted that he loved her first – under turkey-head duress, but still. And he even fearlessly went up against Richard, the shadow that he alone thought hung over their relationship. Chandler was wrong when he assumed that Richard was a better man than him, but spot on in knowing that he himself was the one who could really give Monica the life that she wanted.

Then their fertility issues called that into question. Chandler wasn’t deterred – he did the paperwork and met the adoption counselors and went so far as to be the first to tell some poor kid that he was adopted. All to get Monica her babies. Then he gave this MAGNIFICENT speech, which simply had to close out this list.

Sigh. My heart is so full of Chandler love right now. I hope yours is too.

And that’s all she wrote for this series of appreciation posts. Have a show you’d like us to tackle next? Leave it in the comments!

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52 thoughts on “In Appreciation of Chandler Bing

  1. NUMBER ONE: HOW DARE YOU. I’m crying over “she’s a mother without a baby.” I will also never be able to think of Joey leaving and then sneak-attack-hugging Chandler from behind without wanting to curl up in a ball.
    Chandler is my favorite, and you nailed all of the reasons why: his sarcasm, his self-deprecation, his loyalty, Matthew Perry’s delivery, just a lot of Matthew Perry. Chandler wouldn’t be as lovable in anyone else’s hands. He says everything I wish I could say about myself/ my life and does it in a way that makes it work for him. In the words of AA Milne, I would not kick him out of my chair.
    As for your next show…too soon for The Office? I would also not turn down your thoughts on Seth Cohen and Ryan Atwood.

    • HeadOverFeels says:

      This is why I don’t understand why he can’t get a new show of the ground. He’s brilliant. Maybe Chandler was just too indelible. (I can’t wait for you to get to him on The West Wing!) –S

  2. Mmmm. I have a huge, throbbing soft spot for Chandler (and love the fact that every single quote here was being replayed in my head, real time) and this just made me so happy. I couldn’t decide whether his licking Monica’s muffin (literally) or anything he said to Joey (“Okay, you have to STOP the Q-Tip when there’s resistance!” “Your tailor is a VERY BAD MAN!”)

    In short, this made me happy. 🙂

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